SELF-WORTH OFTEN REVEALS ITSELF ONLY WHEN LIFE STARTS TO RUB AGAINST US.

Self-worth… we all know the word. And yet, for many people it remains a deep and often misunderstood theme.

·        Where does it really reside?

·        How do you recognize it?

·        What can you do with it?

·        And perhaps the most important question of all: how do you heal it?

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Once, I made a sketch for a lecture about how our lives unfold—from intelligence, to life vitality, to consciousness. When you look at that sketch, a few things immediately stand out. Two numbers keep recurring: 7 and 11.

As a child, you live the first seven years mainly in imagination. Your brain is in a state of theta frequency. You copy, repeat, and experience reality in a completely different way. A brush becomes a horse, you pour invisible coffee from your plastic toy kitchen, you play in the earth without worrying about getting dirty. Your vitality (prana) is still weak in this phase, and you are fully dependent on your parents. Meanwhile, your intelligence begins to grow slowly and linearly. That intelligence changes in cycles of roughly 11 years, especially in the early stages, when brain cells grow and others are pruned away.

Around the age of 21, a first important turning point appears. Based on everything you have experienced and perceived up to that moment, you begin to make conscious choices. In terms of consciousness and vitality, this marks three times seven years; in intelligence, two times eleven years.

After that, a clear movement becomes visible in your life. Your vitality continues to rise and usually reaches a peak around 35 years old—also the moment when the brain is fully matured. At the same time, consciousness often dips. This is entirely normal. It is the phase of “doing and having”: building a life, working, starting a family, creating a home, carrying responsibilities, repayments, career ambitions.

As you grow older, that balance begins to shift again. Physically, vitality may decline, small ailments can appear, the body becomes stiffer. But at the same time, consciousness rises once more. You long, on some level, for a way of “being” — or for what you believe yourself to be for that matter. You start to question things. You see the world differently, from a broader perspective.

Around the age of 55 more or less, another crucial moment often arises (5 times 11 year, 7 times 8 year), a time of contemplation. Relationships change or fall away, work or family structures may come under pressure, emotional shocks present themselves, health problems can occur. Once again, you are invited to make choices. For many, this is an opportunity to grow further in consciousness.

In this phase, old experiences and patterns surface—sometimes small details, sometimes major themes you have carried with you all your life. And then the questions arise:

• Why is this happening?

• Do I still need this?

• Who am I, really?

And then you begin to notice…

Which masks you have been wearing all along.

Self-worth touches everything.